My Child Is Being Bullied What Do I Do?
Posted by Wendy Jacobs in May, 2015
My Child id Being Bullied What Do I Do?
Happy Wednesday fellas And yes it freezing!!! But I’m enjoying this very romantic weather right from the comfort of my home J. Hope you are well: )
I’m loving this journey of Creating Amazing Relationships, its having me really dig deep and use everything I know when it matters most and I have had some wonderful breakthroughs in my trickiest relationships as a result.
I had a coffee with a girlfriend this morning who was sharing with me a difficult situation her daughter has been facing at school. A challenge with another child, really it was a relationship challenge.
Her little girl was feeling very anxious and upset about this other child. So as I listened to the pain her daughter was experiencing and felt compelled to help, just in a small way. Ever notice how the smallest things can make the biggest difference? Sometimes the problem can seem so BIG we feel overwhelmed not sure how we can help or what we can do about it.
My advice was simply this. “ A lot of what she is feeling is through her body, our body is continually giving us signals on what to feel. When we are upset and anxious we have to carry ourselves in a very specific way to feel that, so by simply shifting our body we can feel something different.
Many studies have been done to show how body posture influences hormone release and as a result the emotions, which are experienced. If you stand tall, shoulders back head up high with a posture of certainty, confidence, unstoppable attitude, strength and pride, a bit like superman, after holding this position for a few minutes studies have shown that testosterone increases. It gives your brain the message you feel strong, confident, certain, very different to the feeling of being anxious.
From this place of feeling strong you are able to access resources within yourself that are very difficult if not straight out impossible to access when you are feeling anxious. From this place you can influence the relationship in a completely different direction and feel empowered too.
So as a starting point when you want a different outcome in a relationship you need to make sure that your body, your posture your breathing matches the emotional outcome you are after. Then take the necessary steps.
That’s all for Now…may your relationships be conscious and filled with LOVE XXX