How to Turn a negative Situation into a Positive One
Posted by Wendy Jacobs in Oct, 2016
emotions are the single biggest enemy that any of us have.
If we had no negative emotions, our lives would be wonderful — as would our relationships, our health and everything else would be perfect.
Today I will be providing you with some strategies for turning a negative situation into positive one.
But first let’s start with the question of “Where Do Negative Emotions Come From?”
One place that negative emotions come from is Blame; almost all negative emotions require us to blame someone or something else for a negative situation in our lives. The problem here is that when we choose to blame it is almost impossible to let go of the negativity and even harder to move past it.
“Accept complete responsibility for every part of your life. Refuse to blame others or make excuses.
When you take accountability for where you are in life you have the power to change it. Blame only makes you a victim and creates feelings of helplessness, it keeps you stuck where you are and doesn’t take you closer to living a LIFE you LOVE.
So, One Key element to eliminating Negative Emotions is to take responsibility for yourself, your reactions and your situation.
You cannot take responsibility for your life, your situation, and your reactions and be negative at the same time. Taking responsibility means being accountable, your mind can only focus on one thought at a time, positive or negative, the decision is yours. The discipline is yours, the alternative is to live your life in reaction to other people’s decisions and/or things you have no control over. You do have control over how you respond and how you choose to lead your life. This won’t always be easy but the discipline is worth the reward.
So anytime you feel negative say to yourself over and over again:
“I am responsible.”
You might be thinking right now: “But Wendy, in a situation involving other people, how can I be responsible for what they did?”
Here’s how: In every situation, whether it involves you directly or not, you are always at least partially responsible for what happened or is happening.
You got yourself into the situation, you stayed in the situation, you did or said certain things in the situation, so you’re not completely innocent. You at least had something to do with it, and you must choose to be accountable in seeing that and owning that even though it would always be comfortable.
How about in a situation where you had no involvement with what happened, maybe you weren’t involved at all. You’re still responsible for how you choose to respond to such a situation.
This is what is often referred to as your ‘response-ability’ — your ability to respond in a positive way. And again, to respond in a positive way, you simply repeat to yourself that you are responsible, for how you feel and your decision on how to respond will influence that feeling.”
You Have Complete Control
The truth is nobody can make you feel negative, other than you. If you think about things that make you feel unhappy, sad or angry, you are going to feel negative. If you think about things that make you happy and excited, and appreciative about your life, you will feel positive.
The most important thing to remember about negative feelings is this: you have complete control over the way you feel, you have complete control over the way you respond to any situation and you have complete control over the things you think about at any minute of the day.
Exercise, practice, rehearse your ability to respond positively, take responsibility for your role in negative situations, and allow yourself to let go of negative feelings that may be holding you back.
There are so many ways to do this and if you are really struggling and would like some help. Contact me at wendy@wendyjacobs.com.au schedule a free session with me, where I am more than happy to show you how I can help you Overcome any emotional or behavioral difficulty and create a life you love.
As always may your life be conscious and filled with LOVE xxx
