What Do You Want?
Posted by Wendy Jacobs in Jun, 2014
What Do You Want?
What do you want? Have you ever asked yourself that? What do you truly want in your life? Maybe you want a loving marriage, beautiful children, a million dollars, a beautiful home a forfilling career. Maybe you want to make a difference. Whatever it is that you want I want you now to ask yourself one thing. Why do you want it?
What many people don’t realise is the reason we want things is for the feeling we believe it will give us once we have that thing. If you want a luxury car, maybe it’s for the feeling of prestige and achievement. If you want a loving relationship, maybe it’s for the feeling of love, intimacy and connection. Whatever it is, the thing that you want is simply a vehicle to feeling, emotions that you want to experience. Quite simply what this come down to is that people don’t really want things, they want feelings they want to experience certain emotions.
If you follow my blog you know that emotions are something we create, something we influence. (Refer to Blog titled, how we influence our emotions). However, many of us have been raised in a world that has led us to believe that once we achieve certain things, certain accomplishments then we will be happy. We only have to look around us at the people who seem to have it all to realise that this is not at all true. All wants are a want for specific emotions and all emotions are just a biochemical explosion in our brain that can be sparked off at any moment.
We must first learn to take control of our emotions consciously rather than living in response to them. Instead of buying into the belief that some external circumstance is going to make you feel a certain way.
Because the truth is that feeling you get from something outside you will be short lived, and then you will need to look for the next thing that will give you the emotions you are after. In order to live a quality life you must learn how to influence your emotions consciously. Because the truth is, the quality of our lives is the quality of the emotions we live in, not the things that you have or things you have accomplished. I want you to know this and really understand this so you don’t have to waste any more time pursuing thing that you believe will make you happy, when you can be happy right now whilst pursuing those things. Because I am not saying don’t pursue things, don’t have goals. I am all for that. What I am saying, is make sure that you understand that those things will never give you the emotions you are after long term.
I decided to blog about this because the majority of people I see on a daily basis are living in reaction to their emotions with no clue that they are the ones influencing them. I share this also because so many people feel so overwhelmed by the emotions and disappointments of life and if they were to understand what you now understand, they would experience their lives very differently.
With lots of love
Wendy xxxxx