WHY HOW YOU FEEL IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN YOUR LIFE AND ESPECIALLY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
Posted by Wendy Jacobs at February 20th, 2017
So yesterday I did a quick little video blog on HOW you can feel amazing really quickly!
Why did I decide this was the topic for the day? Well it was mostly because I woke up feeling lousy and knew that if I wanted to shift how I was feeling then I wold have to do about it. After I did a quick little exercise, I felt amazing and thought I would share with you what I did and why.
See I have come to value that the way I feel is the most important thing to me. That my emotions are my responsibility and only I can take care of myself the way I wish to be taken care of. That getting to know me and love me at the deepest level is the greatest gift I can ever give myself and those I am in relationship with.
How I feel is everything, and the greatest gift I can give myself is emotional fitness. The ability to influence the emotions I most want to experience in life, but first it helps to identify what those emotions are. It surprises me still today to discover that so many people do not know what they want to feel and as a result end up feeling whatever comes up, reactive to their environment rather than decisive, conscious and responsible for how they choose to respond.
These people tend to blame others and external factors as being the reason they feel the way they do rather than being responsible for and conscious of how they are influencing their own emotions.
So the first thing I am going to ask you , is to ask yourself what are the top 5 emotions you want to experience consistently in your life. Take a minute and list these, this is really important work. It is going to help you raise the quality of your life to a whole other level.
See so many people know what it is they want in life, what their dreams, goals and ambitions are but very few are aware that the reason they have these ambitions is because what they believe, they will feel once that have these things.
This my friends is a trap, these feelings you are after may or may not come with your goal once it has been achieved and once it has, the feeling may only last temporary before you realise it is time to chase anther dream so you can feel what you want. This can be an endless cycle of feeling unfulfilled, I have seen this many times with my private clients, men and woman who have achieved all their goals have every reason in the world to be happy but still are not for filled.
So what do we do?
Well there are many pieces to this puzzle and I am only going to share a little piece. One that I like to refer to as: emotional fitness, the conscious decision to influence the emotions we most want to experience. This exercise is useful for those times when you feel stuck in emotions that do not serve you. This exercise is not the answer to all your problems but can defiantly take you out of emotional pain and into a better place. This exercise will help you quickly shift. It may seem like a quick fix and in many ways it is, but it also requires practice and consistency before it becomes a way that you have naturally learnt to respond emotionally.
I am only going to share one little piece of the puzzle here, but it is a BIG puzzle. This awareness however will make an enormous difference to the quality of your life.
What I am going to talk about is your physiology, your body and how it influences your emotions. The way we use our body, has a massive impact on how we feel, researchers say 80% of what we feel is influenced by what we do with our body! That’s HUGE!!
So the fastest way to shift the way you feel is to move your body, move your body in a way that brings you pleasure, joy, strength, whatever it is that you want to feel. Learn to use your body to give you the feelings you most desire and practice that, practice it until it is second nature. Do not wait for some external thing to happen before you allow yourself to feel what you want. Get into the habit of empowering yourself to feel what you want now. So that your journey towards your goals , dreams, and ambitions can be one that you enjoy, so that your emotions are not determined or influenced by what is going on in your outside world, but rather influenced by something you are consciously in control of.
This is one of the greatest gifts you will ever give yourself and those that love you. When you become responsible for how you feel it takes the pressure off others to be responsible e for your happiness. From this space a beautiful, loving relationship can flourish because you have learnt how to make yourself happy, you have not handed that responsibility to someone else. You are also then in an empowered place to make good decisions for yourself rather than responding from a place of desperation, loneliness and neediness. There is much more to be said about this topic of emotional fitness, but I will leave it here for now and hope that this has you thinking.
Check out my video below to discover one POWERFUL and FUN way I have learnt to quickly shift my emotions.
As always live consciously and filed with LOVE xxx