The Three 3 most Important Decisions You Will Ever Make
Posted by Wendy Jacobs in Jun, 2013
People are constantly looking for a complicated analysis as to why they feel the way they do.
If you know me at all, you know that I like to keep it simple, so here is the very simple yet very powerful understanding to why you feel the way you do.
The way you feel is a reflection of three decisions you are constantly making throughout the day. Like most people you are probably doing this unconsciously.
The first decision is what to focus on. The study of neuro science tells us that at any one moment we have over 2 million bits of information coming at us simultaneously and fortunately we do not have the capacity to attend to all this information all at once, in fact we are only able to process 7 or so bits of information per second. The point is that at any one time we have many options as to what you choose to focus on. So, what are you focussed on?
The second most important decision you will ever make is what things mean to you. You see rarely does anything have any true meaning except for the meaning you give it. Take this example of meeting your best friend for a coffee, she’s running 20 minutes late, do you decide this means she is inconsiderate and thoughtless. Do you decide that she has probably been in an accident and is possibly hurt? Do you decide that you have the wrong coffee shop?
What things mean is the second most powerful influence to the way you feel at any given moment.
The third decision you are constantly making that is affecting the way you feel is, what you will do.
Will you decide to get angry and leave the coffee shop and head home, will you sit and patiently wait, will you call her, will you worry?
You see the way you feel is not some sort of random process but rather a result of three unconscious decisions you are making every day. Take time to think about this one, and experience it don’t just take my word. Consciously choose an opposite focus, meaning and action today just so you can experience just how much influence you have over the way you feel J
That’s all for now
Lots of Love
Wendy