WHY MOST PEOPLE FAIL IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS
Posted by Wendy Jacobs in May, 2015
WHY MOST PEOPLE FAIL IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS
(THIS IS THE BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP REVERSAL THAT HAS TO HAPPEN)
Last night I sat at my desk wondering how do I help ? How do I add value?
Being so blessed to have crossed paths with so many beautiful people who have impacted my life in magical ways, I kept thinking how do I give back?
I struggled, didn’t know what to write today and then it hit me while I was washing dishes. Tell them to give, give more than they would ever expect to receive. Give love from your heart with no motive or expectation to get something back…. just simply give.
So many people have become focussed on what they are not getting from their relationships that they feel angry, hurt, betrayed, worn out the list of negative emotions goes on. If for a moment your focus shifted to what you are giving rather than what you are not getting I promise the entire energy of your relationship will change.
There are many stages of love and we all have fallen into these categories at least once. (These are very brief description)
1-Baby love – The kind of love where you are only happy as long as you are getting what you want
2- Trading – I’ll give you this as long as I get what I want to. It’s trading, I am going to give as long as I get. You know the type, when people get so upset because they gave and gave and never got back in return. If it were love it would have never been a trade.
3- Giving because it is who you are, what you were made for. You know it’s your greatest gift and you give it unconditionally. Without holding back, without hesitancy and when you do it you feel Amazing! Even if love is not reciprocated you will always feel what you have given. Someone who gives love because it’s who they are have the most amazing relationships. This is where the MAGIC happens.
4-There is a fourth level, and this is where you love even when someone is trying to hurt you. It’s rare but we have all experienced it at times. That is an amazing level of love, everyone has the ability to love at that level.
I learnt from a very gifted author that “all pain is …Is love withheld” These words have stayed with me during my greatest relationship challenges. Because if we learnt to love despite the circumstances we would never experience the pain many of us do in relationships.
Think about it….all pain is , is love withheld. The moment you take away…. is the very moment you will feel pain. So let’s all aim for this. It’s a challenge but It’s worthwhile and once you have mastered this ability your relationship will transform.
So my message to day is GIVE, GIVE LOVE because it is who you are and what you were made for.